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There's nothing I like more than a good boundary. Okay, that isn't exactly true. I like coconut cake, stop-me-in-my-tracks art, and genuine random acts of kindness a bit more that creating a good boundary. But, truth be told, I have learned that the more I go into the scary, 'oh this is so effing uncomfortable' space of advocating for myself via a good ole boundary, I feel so much personal power. I grew up in a house without any boundaries. For example, in my teens, my mother 'stole' a few boyfriends from me. A couple ended up living with us, too. That is a story I won't lean into here (and I've done a lot of work on navigating all the crap associated with those experiences) but I share it to emphasize some of my own 'that sucked' events as a young person. Not a stretch to realize I had some boundary setting struggles. After some therapy in the early days and lifelong learning through reading/podcasts/conversations/experiences, I leaned into getting really serious about becoming my own Boundary Boss - and it has paid off for me one hundred fold. Now, don't get me wrong, folks. It still carries discomfort to stand up for myself (believe it or not) but I gotta tell you, it has become truly liberating to gently (or not so softly in some cases) advise someone to back the eff off. This will be something I must keep front of mind for the rest of my life and I am here to share with you, dear reader of this post, if you do the work by starting with your own version of baby steps, it can have a tremendous impact on your life. <3 
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I think I discovered the secret of life. Last week or so, I enjoyed a happy hour beverage with a new work friend who is a 24-year-old fella and we got to talk in about life. And it was in our conversation I just had this wild sensation of time travel back to when I was in my mid-twenties. I was struck by how much life had transpired since those days And I realized that had I adopted a more mindful way of being, the past few decades wouldn't feel like a blink of an eye. Nowadays, I am more mindful with my experiences. I'm really absorbing using every sense I can in a moment and when I do that it seems to make the moment seems longer and when I think back about the experience, It feels like I'm in the moment again. Does that make sense? When I'm rushing around not even looking at or thinking about what I'm experiencing, it's lost, the time is simply lost. So if you want to live a super long life, super saturate your moments by using your senses in each experience you can to make it double the lasting experience. Today, I enjoyed a delicious brunch with my friend Kamrin, which included a love fest with Buck the dog. Absorbing those moments of connecting with a friend, eating yummy french toast, and giggling over the attention of the cutest dog in the world - well, that sure was a slice of The Good Life. ❤  |
AuthorLet's create a BIG life one small adventure at a time! Here are a few of my experiences - perhaps you may find a little nugget or two that inspires you to take your own baby step to living your dreams! Archives
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