The Boundary Boss

There's nothing I like more than a good boundary. Okay, that isn't exactly true. I like coconut cake, stop-me-in-my-tracks art, and genuine random acts of kindness a bit more that creating a good boundary. But, truth be told, I have learned that the more I go into the scary, 'oh this is so effing uncomfortable' space of advocating for myself via a good ole boundary, I feel so much personal power.

I grew up in a house without any boundaries. For example, in my teens, my mother 'stole' a few boyfriends from me. A couple ended up living with us, too. That is a story I won't lean into here (and I've done a lot of work on navigating all the crap associated with those experiences) but I share it to emphasize some of my own 'that sucked' events as a young person. Not a stretch to realize I had some boundary setting struggles.

After some therapy in the early days and lifelong learning through reading/podcasts/conversations/experiences, I leaned into getting really serious about becoming my own Boundary Boss - and it has paid off for me one hundred fold.

Now, don't get me wrong, folks. It still carries discomfort to stand up for myself (believe it or not) but I gotta tell you, it has become truly liberating to gently (or not so softly in some cases) advise someone to back the eff off.

This will be something I must keep front of mind for the rest of my life and I am here to share with you, dear reader of this post, if you do the work by starting with your own version of baby steps, it can have a tremendous impact on your life. <3