The Ride | Just Ask

DEFINITION: To pose a question or request something.

So simple, yet so difficult for women to do this! We women are taught to do for others, not how to ask for help or, goddess forbid, for the things we want. Oh no, that is frowned upon which is total hogwash.

Our dreams are valid no matter what they are and ours to bring to life. We need the support of others because we don't live in a bubble. We cannot - should not - do everything by ourselves.

In this final chapter post, you have 11 pieces of puzzle plus one to now go out and build a big life by one small adventure at a time. This is fantastic news!  Well done!.

The first and foremost question is, are you willing to honor yourself to venture out on your own proverbial epic road trip to live your best life? The answer better be a very loud "yes!".

As you lean into that yes, you can use tools and resources to help you kickstart the answer for the next important question: what dream do I want to reclaim and live into being? One resource that I have used and recommended to others over the years is a book by Carol Lloyd titled, Create a Life Worth Living. It is filled with wisdom, stories, and questions to prime your pump in order to reconnect with your amazing self.

Another exercise I have used several times over the years is to write out a description of the life I want to have ranging from how my creativity is expressed to the types of relationships I seek to my professional goals. I've learned that making my art is paramount to my sanity, so it always comes before my work in this world. I learned this from doing this exercise every few years over the past couple of decades. I've leaned into understanding that I had a few boundaries to honor and then defining what some of those boundaries are in my relationships. My work in the world as an entrepreneur is important but not my number one focus when it comes to living my version of my best life.

There are many tools out there to help you with this. One very robust one is the exercise found in The Success Principles by Jack Canfield, the book I mentioned in my introduction. I encourage you to pour beverage of choice, light a candle, and with one hour of undisturbed peace, do this exercise. You must ask yourself what it is you want before you can ask the Beloved Universe and all of your loving co-conspirators in your life to help you make all of your dreams reality in one version or another. It is through this excavation you tap into the all-important first step of self-awareness that will eventually lead to designing your road map of life.

Living is quite the journey. There are accidents along the way, potholes to navigate, and wide open vistas to lose your heart.  By asking, you ignite the spark of a bonfire of full living. You get to experiment and learn, two things that will always help you grow. So, go ahead and ask. Start with yourself because you are not a passenger but the driver to your destiny. Have fun!